Probably one of my favorite sayings (maybe I just think about it a lot and it’s really not that common) is:
“Expect the worst of people, and never get disappointed.”
Two scenarios can come out, 100% guaranteed each and every time:
1- Bad stuff happens, and you were prepared to deal with it.
2- Good stuff happens, and you got a nice surprise for the better.
That’s what I call a win-win scenario.
And no, don’t tell me I can’t live my life like this. I’ve been doing it since I was old enough to understand that people make mistakes (some of them don’t, they’re just pieces of shit waiting for a chance to fuck with you and do it on purpose). To this day, everything has been going great, and I’ve been able to minimize and save myself from potentially awful situations.
Of course, this approach cannot be used all the time. Some things are outta your control and no preparedness or cynical thinking can spare you. When you’re at the mercy of another person’s actions, there’s nothing you can do. Just get ready to take a hit, and if you’re one of those optimistic people: “Hope for the best”.
“Hope” is defined by the Cambridge Dictionary as: to want something to happen or to be true, and usually have a good reason to think that it might.
If people want to ‘hope’, then let them. It’s their life. But no hoping for me. There’s not enough time in the world to ‘hope’ for positive things to happen.
If it’s under my control, I don’t wait; I TRY, I DO, I CREATE, I WORK towards achieving that desired positive thing. If it’s not under my control, then simply I prepare for the worst, and carry on with my life as if the bad outcome already happened.
I’m sorry for the pessimism. Some people cannot handle living like this. But it’s really quite easy and savvy. For me it feels great knowing, understanding and accepting that things don’t have to go my way. I mean, “why should them?” Why am I so special that positive things HAVE to happen to me. That I have to WAIT and HOPE for good things to happen me. I cannot, in all honesty, subscribe to that kind of positive arrogance.
People fuck up (and constantly). If you choose to wait and get surprised by the outcome, then the universe will keep dishing out surprises. That’s the just way it is, and I wish you all the luck in the world on your future endeavors.
You may say I’m a cynic,
But I’m not the only one.
I hope someday you’ll join us,
And you’ll be prepared, for once.